Discipline. Save the rod spare the child. Who's job is it to ensure a child is properly raised so that they may succeed when the time comes to try out the world on their own? Can any one person delegate who's responsibility it is? Awhile back I read an article on a lady in Congress attempting to make the spanking of children illegal. This blew me away, first of all there is no way that could ever be delegated and second, had she nothing better to do than try and raise everyone's children?
I have a friend who works in a daycare and for awhile discipline was a non-existent word. The children were to merely learn on their own through natural consequences and the teachers hoped that they would just end up good people. When you are three years old and you punch your classmate to get a toy; generally it works and without any opposition they will continue this behavior through the adult years if they are not taught early on the difference between right and wrong. Again, many would argue who can define right or wrong? But the point I am trying to make is that sometimes we need to do things we don't want to in order to achieve a greater end.
If smacking a kid on the butt helps them learn not to punch their classmate, do it. In the long run they'll be thankful. I think it's time we toughen up and do what is best for our children.
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I do support corporal punishment in some instances (never for girls, I'm sexist like that) but if a daycare worker hit my child I would probably go hit the daycare worker (probably more than once). I don't think Congress should be passing laws regarding how parents discipline their children. Countries like Norway and Sweden have laws outlawing spanking and look at where it got them. They're all a bunch of socialist pansies.
Also, don't you think it's a little ironic that you think the best way to teach children they shouldn't hit each other is by hitting them?
Matthew you obviously have only a boy, because my children are parented the same, regardless of gender. My girls would so use that kind of sexism to their advantage. They are very good at finding any holes in our discipline!
Lynn, children are all different and I don't think a one size fits all is a good mentality to approach parenting with.
In general, boys are very physical. Have you ever noticed how younger boys will go harass older boys and provoke them into beating on them, and you can tell the younger boys just love it. So I think those types of boys respond well to being spanked.
But then there are other children that are very sensitive, where all you have to do is give them a cross look to discipline them and spanking this kind of child would just damage them. Girls are much more likely to fall into this category.
Also, I just think it's wrong to hit females regardless of the situation.
Matthew I do agree that children are all different. Some children it just takes a sharp glare and they break down, others need spanking and time outs. I do not think however that it depends on gender. Girls and boys should both be spanked, punishment should be determined by the offense and the personality of the child not by whether they are a boy or girl. I think that we are becoming too soft in our society. I do not think that Jordan meant that the daycare workers should spank the kids, I think she meant that parents should be responsible for disciplining their children. I think she was saying that children cannot learn things on their own without guidance and discipline and thats what daycare workers should provide. Not in a physical manner, probably more in a time-out way.
I agree all children are different and that each punishment should fit the crime whether it be a boy or a girl. The fact is though that most girls don't do the same stuff as boys or at least mine didn't so I didn't have to spank them as much.
I also agree that we need to get a better handle on our children as a whole and stop leaving it up to the daycares and schools to hand out punishments. This lets the children think the parents don't care so they can do whatever they want.
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