Friday, February 20, 2009
what is the "right" age?
I am 21 and newly married. Before our wedding a lot of people were telling me that I was too young. So I am wondering is there an acceptable age to be married? A specific length of time you need to be married to someone? To me marriage is not "ok" or "not ok" depending on your age, but I wonder if I am in the minority on that though. It seems like every where I turned someone was telling me that. Funny thing is, all the people who were telling me that, are now engaged themselves :)
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I don't think there is a right age to get married. Every person matures differently and wants different things out of life. Some people get married at twenty and stay together for life while others are still trying to figure it out fifty. No one can tell another person when they should marry.
I totally agree with you and Jennifer. Every situation is different and only you know if it's right for you. I know someone that got married when she turned 18 and he was 20 - they've got one of the best marraiges I've seen! It all depends on your maturity level. I think people just feel the need to give advice and focus on other people instead of themselves... the whole plank in your own eye vs. the speck in someone elses
I myself can not imagine being married at my age! But then again I am very immature. I was really sheltered and babied up until I moved away from home, and even now Iam babied as much as I possibly can be from 300 miles away. I don't know what it will feel like when Im ready to get married, but when I find the person I want to spend the rest of my life with no one is going to stop me. If you are lucky enough to find the person for you, nothing should stop you.
I think the reason most would say 21 is too young is because they might remember being 21 and knowing they were not ready for marriage at that age. When I was a little girl I wanted be married and having kids by 25. I turn 24 today and I can tell you that I am no where near ready for kids. As far as marriage goes, I think I could handle it and I have found my perfect match. Im just 3 years older than you and don't consider myself too young. At 21 I was just too imature to think about marriage. It really depends on the person and the couple. There should not be a "right" age though.
It does depend on the person, but I think the longer you wait before you get married, the more of a chance you have to stay together. I have personally set the age of 21 for myself before I tie the knot. I just want to make sure I've had time to really think it through.
I was 19 when i was married..i think one knows how ready they are..it has to be above 18 for legal reasons, but i think you can know yourself well enough, why not? At the same time i do wish i had some more life experince before getting married. So like others said, it just depends on the person.
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